How To Make Sure Your Relationship Is Solid

My husband Mike and I first met at a friend’s wedding but were so busy with the day’s events that we never got past “hello.” He lived in Washington D.C. and I lived in Los Angeles so that was that.

Fast forward seven years. The same couple was now having a housewarming party. Mike had, by that time, moved back to Los Angeles and we met again at that party. We spent all night talking to only each other-so much so that everyone else noticed it and commented about it to our hosts. We called each other every night and talked for hours. We started planning our wedding the very next month. We never looked back. Mike and I have now been together for 18 years and married for 17 of those years.

Our life together hasn’t always been easy. There have been periods of unemployment, serious medical problems, eight miscarriages and the deaths of my parents as well as some dear friends and our beloved bulldog, Boris.

We know friends who have bailed for far less. We don’t know if it’s because they were in their 20s when they got married or if they had unfulfilled dreams that marriage interfered with. Whatever the case, the reason we are still together comes down to one word: Love.

OK, OK. I know you’re shaking your head and saying “Really? That’s your big reveal?” and my answer is yes. Here are some questions you should ask yourself to see if the one you’re with is the one who’s truly everlasting.